Questions from High School Students and Anwers by Ven. Khamsao Civilize
Q: You say that attachment to things can delay reaching Enlightenment. Do you think that attachment to people and …can also delay Enlightenment?
A: Thank you Jenn Delaney for your question. I like your question. According to the Pali word “Nibbana” or Sanskrit word “Nirvana” means “beyond sufferings”. However, Tahana or greedy causes suffering. In the same time, attachment is an action after greedy was over. For example greedy makes people desire to have, to be and not to be, but attachment makes people stay with what they have, are and are not. No attachment means “let it goes”. When we let it goes it is lighter and then lightest. I have a friend she is from England, she told me that once her parents said that they love her so much. So she asked them a question, her question is, “ Are you still going to love me so much if I am not your child?” The answer is “no”. People are clinging to things (people) especially with physical forms like beauty. So with attachment and other word is Tanha means desires/craving are obstacle reaching the Nibbana or Enlightenment. What are those Tanha? 1. Craving for "sensuality" or "sensual pleasures" or “sensual desire” 2. Craving for "becoming" or "existence" 3. Craving for "no becoming" or "non-existence" or "extermination"
Q: What were the opinions of those around you (family and friends) when you decided to become a monk? Did they approve and support you or not?
A: You asked very a popular question. Again thank for your question. In my home country, being a monk is our cultural tradition. There are more than one reason for a single person becoming a monk. As a boy when he is 20 years old he should become a monk at least a couple weeks. This is our tradition. Another reason it is boys opportunity to go to school and to learn at temple. Generally those boys’ parents support or even ask them to become monks, in case, their boys don’t want to and their parents will be very upset and disappointed.
Q: By what means did you learn to deny yourself of selfish desire and live a humble lifestyle?
A: Another word I think they should be used is “Materialism and Contentment or sufficiency”. I’m not really sure if you mean these. However the great philosophy of Buddhism is “Anatta” which means no self or none self”
With this philosophy, we put it into practical by thinking about it and consider as everything is impermanent, suffering and nothing will be with us forever. Why do we need to be selfish? Selfish always harms us. Selfish never makes us reaching the true happiness.